Blog Update


Welcome to ‘The Elephant in the Room’ – formerly known as ‘Me, Myself & I’.

Engaging in discussions about some of the most popular and controversial topics of today’s society, this blog aims to address ‘The Elephant in the Room’.

Of course I have kept some other previous posts from the former blog, including sporting, craft and random informative posts, but the new focus is on opinion-based posts about REAL issues!

Please get involved – comment, share your views, all are welcome   xMissJaynex



Hey there!

My apologies that I have been away for so long, my studies have been taking over my life lately!
So, this blog post is going to be perhaps the most controversial post I have written thus far, and I welcome ALL comments, perspectives and thoughts. Today’s blog post is on same-sex marriage.

As someone who has a few gay friends, my stance on this issue is for gay marriage rights – if you’re anti-gay marriage don’t tune out just yet! I would love to know if this issue sways your opinion in the slightest, and if not I’d love to know your opinions 🙂

My friend, let’s call him Steve, is the stereotypical gay – he is fashionable, he sings, dances and acts, he has a ridiculous amount of platonic relationships with girls, and has a flamboyant attitude – and I love him so much! He is one of the best friends I will ever have in my entire life, he is so thoughtful and considerate, and always creates such a wonderful vibe.
So when I hear that people are discriminative toward gays, it absolutely breaks my heart. Why is my friend Steve someone to discriminate against, just because of his sexual orientation – just because of something that actually doesn’t affect anyone except for him and his partners?

In fact, this is my main issue in regards to the “anti same-sex marriage debate” – why do you have the right to decide whether these people are allowed to get married or not? How does it affect you ?

Honestly, there are people getting married every day all over the world that you have no say over, that doesn’t affect you at all, so why is it that suddenly your opinion is involved when a gay or lesbian couple marry? I would love to know the answer to this, so please comment below.

Many people argue that gay and lesbian couples shouldn’t marry due to it contradicting what the bible says. Granted, there are bible passages writing about homosexuality being an “abomination”, and a sin, but there are so many passages within the bible referring to equality…. “There is no longer Jew or Greek, there is no longer slave or free, there is no longer male and female; for all of you are one in Christ Jesus.” Galatians 3:28 (NRSV)
If we all live strictly by the words of the bible in their most literal terms, then we will still be possessing slaves, not eating shellfish… and we can all forget about footy (for we would be touching pig skin)!!! For more information about the way our lives would be if we all followed the bible word for word, please see this eye opening letter:

So now I have argued that relationships are no-one else’s business but that of those involved, and that we cannot use the bible to argue against same-sex marriage because of the contradictions and that it doesn’t completely translate into these modern times.  Finally, I would like to just bring Steve back into this article…

Steve knew he was gay in year 8, and he came out the following year. Every day he would get bullied, and get beaten up, and ridiculed. His life became a living hell – he was in counselling incessantly due to the abuse he was receiving. His friends turned against him, and he was bombarded with hate messages. It took a long time, and a lot of will on his part to be able to turn his life back around and find people who accepted him. If Steve was straight, I’m sure those of you reading this who are opposed to homosexuality would have sympathy. What really is the difference? And for those of you who think people choose to be gay… why would someone choose this abuse? Isn’t this just a sign that gay people are the strongest people of all?
So why are we trying to take away their happiness?



Hey there bloggers!

Wow I haven’t posted anything for a while, it’s been a busy few months indeed! Sitting here watching the news I have just heard about yet another gunman shooting innocent people in America. I know that this post may be quite controversial, but I would really like to encourage healthy discussion and debate in the comment section below!!!

The latest news headline is that a gunman opened fire at a Californian restaurant, and the death toll is now at six.

If we look back on the last few years we can reflect on numerous amounts of shootings in America on innocent people.
Two of these events that haunt me to this day are the “Batman Shooting” (where a man went into the cinema at a Batman viewing, believing he was the Joker, and killed many people in the cinema) and the Connecticut School Shootings – This one is absolutely horrific.

Although Wikipedia can not always be the most reliable source of information, browse through this page to have a look at just the school shootings in America that have been recorded. Keep in mind that this doesn’t include the many shootings in work places, on the street and in any other situation .

So with all this in mind, what would be a sensible solution??

Personally, I believe that guns should be banned in America, and any where else in the world for that matter. What are the main uses for guns? Well the simple answer to that is to kill or severely injure.  Granted, banning guns would have some potential cons, such as those who need guns for farming purposes, but surely there are substitutes for these farmers?

Many people say guns are necessary for self defense, but again there are substitutes. I have done some research about this point, and is a great source of opinions. One user commented:

“If you want to defend yourself, Take a karate class, or a self-defense class. I know a punch to the midsection won’t stop a bullet, but most people with guns to defend themselves, only end up hurting the wrong person. Also, I have been reading more about little children getting a hold of these guns and shooting their parents or friends. How traumatic!”Posted by: patricia.green10

Depending on how you want to look at this will determine your stance on the issue. One way we can look at this is using the Hedonic Calculus – Which aims to provide the greatest happiness for the greatest good.

I do believe that banning guns would provide the greatest happiness for the greatest good, and therefore I think that this should be strongly considered by the government. Think of all the lives that could be saved! 🙂

So now I have written an extensive opinionated piece, I would LOVE if you would let me know what your stance is on this issue! Drop me a comment below and I will definitely get back to you 🙂


Book Review: Jodi Picoult; Perfect Match

Hi there,

I am currently reading one of Jodi Picoult’s best sellers “Perfect Match”. I am only half way through the book and so much has already happened. This is a fantastic book and I would recommend it to anyone who enjoys reading, however I would put an age limit on it. I would suggest this book is suitable for those 15 years and over.

It is diffuclt to give a brief summary of this book without giving away the story line, so here is a link to a great site;

It can give you much information in regards to the book.


I would currently rate the book 4.5 / 5 stars 🙂





Make A Change – Make A Difference

It had been brought to the attention of the news and environmentalists that the Orangutans and their habitats are under extreme threat; this is mainly caused by palm oil plantations taking the land of Orangutan habitats, and this issue is only growing worse with time. Please take the time to fill out this short online petition to have your say to help out – The petition signings are not visible on the internet and the only personal information asked is your name.

Please click the link below, and send it to your friends.



Sorry it has been so long since I have written, I have been very busy with all of my work. Talking with some friends lately we have been discussing teenage pregnancy and whether making contraception so available is promoting teenagers having sex.

This isn’t going to be a post about my thoughts, all I am going to do is put out some ideas that you may or may not have considered before, and you can just let me know what you think 🙂

So to begin, here are some statistics from my friends school reports on teenage pregnancy:

  • Currently 5.2% of all births are those of teenage mothers.
  •  Also, the ‘rate of childbearing among Australian teenagers peaked at 55.5 babies per 1,000 women in 1971 and reached its lowest rate of 18.1 per 1,000 women in 1999 (ABS, 2000).’

Teenagers could have sex for many reasons, maybe to rebel against their parents, or to prove their love to their partners, to experience something new or even to have a baby.

Why would a teenager want a baby?
Perhaps they are lonely and are seeking the love or affection of another.
Perhaps they want to be a better parent than their own.
Or perhaps they simply just want a a baby!

Now, personally  I think that teenage pregnancy is a bad thing, and something that could be better prevented.
People are trying to prevent this by selling contraception at the supermarkets, and the chemists. I even saw a $2 ‘Fruity Flavored’ condom vending machine at the car wash a few days ago.
There is not really any excuse not to be able to get your hands on contraception.
BUT – Is all of this available contraception promoting sex in teenagers?

I asked one of my friends and she said “If I knew that my child were going to have sex then I would much rather them know that if they need protection that you could get it from there [car wash/ supermarket].
However I asked another and they said “Well if you didn’t have contraception so many people would be to scared to [have sex] and so they wouldn’t do it.”

My thoughts?
I agree with both of the above.
I think that SOME people would be to scared to do anything without using protection, but then again, SOME people would justs do it anyway!!

This whole topic is entirely dependent on each individual involved and their situation.

I am going to leave this one up to you guys, let me know what YOU think. I have just provided you with some thinking points, now its up to you to put it all together and give me your feedback 🙂

Love from,



Hey there,

I know I haven’t posted anything new for AGES but here I am and I have started a new post ‘segment’, the Controversial Posts. Every so often I will post MY OPINIONS on controversial topics, and you can comment with your opinions. The only thing is that you must remember this is my opinion only, and I fully respect opposing opinions.


So, the first Controversial Post is about smacking children.


I personally think smacking children is horrid, it can become so bad that it becomes child abuse. Many countries have actually made it illegal, and I think that should be a global law. Not only does it hurt, but it can be potentially harmful in the long term for the children in an emotional perspective. They could grow up with hatred toward their parents/guardians, and they can become violent toward other children.

Verbal discipline works perfectly well with the examples I have seen; my parents used verbal discipline and so did those of some of my best friends, and the group of us are good behaving people, who at school are always in the good books.

That isn’t to say that smacking children means that the kids will be rebels, or misbehaving kids and teens, but it is just an example that verbal discipline works perfectly well.

I think that smacking children should be considered child abuse – If an adult walked up to another and hit them for doing something they didnt like, they could potentially be charged, so why is it that it is justified to hit a child? Because they are young? Defenceless? Rude? Small? No. That should not come into this. Our world is supposed to now be one of equality, so now this could easily turn into a controversial post on discrimination toward children. Age.

What is your opinion?


Happy Halloween!

Hey there!

It is Halloween again already! Wow how the time flies!

We would love to hear what your Halloween ideas are! What are you dressing up as? And what are you doing to celebrate?

If you’re not too sure what to do, why not try some of these food ideas:

☺Merangue Ghosts☺

☻Eyes in Blood☻ (grapes in jelly)

☺Spider CupCakes☺

☻Spiderweb Fairyfloss☻


So what are your thoughts?





Too Old, Too Slow, Too Good!

Hi there,

The Cats have done it again and have won the 2011 AFL Grand Final!

This match was certainly a nail-biter and one which kept everyone on the edge of their seat, although, by half way through the final quarter, it was clear that the mighty catters had the upper hand.

The Norm Smith was handed to Geelong’s Jimmy Bartel (#3) and it was much deserved.

Chris Scott has brought his team to victory in his first year as coach, and Mick Malthouse from Collingwood has retired knowing his team made the Grand Final and kept up a close game.

Cameron Ling (#45) who is the Geelong Captain had been taken off early due to a broken nose on field, but once that was fixed he jumped right back into the game. Although, Geelong’s number 31, James Podsiadly, was taken off completely after dislocating his shoulder.

A great and well deserved win… Too Old? Too Slow? Too Good.



Go Cats!!

Geelong Cats vs Collingwood

Hi there!

After this years preliminary finals in the AFL, Geelong Cats and Collingwood are left to battle it out in the Grand Final!!

Last night Collingwood played Hawthorn. The Hawks were in front by a mile, until the 4th quarter, when Collingwood caught up and ended the nail biting game on a high. Today Geelong played West Coast, although it was clear from half time that Geelong was destined to win.

The two Grand Final teams, who are first and second on the AFL ladder, will play against each other at 2:30pm on the 1st of October. Who do you think will win?? Leave your comments below 🙂

Cats versus Magpies – May the best team win. 🙂